Get a grip...

I'm so sick of people that complain and complain about their life but do NOTHING to fix the problem. It's your life...you are in charge. At what point do you not understand that. There was no promise when you were born saying "you are born into a life of ease, expect no troubles, no rollercoasters, and absolutely no pain on your ride from birth to death"

Life is about living and learning. You cannot learn if you do not make mistakes, you cannot make mistakes if you dont try something out of your comfort level. What does it take to step outside of the box? CONFIDENCE...not in the people around you, but in yourself. You and you alone are in charge of your happiness. Just like you are in charge of your health, and your appearence. If you don't feel good..you're not happy, if you feel like a "frump" you're not happy-those are simple equations. Yes it does get a bit more complicated when you add more people into the mix. First off you had your parents and all through school you could've sworn they wanted you to be anything but happy...just to grow up and realize that you being happy in the end-was indeed their main agenda. Now you're grown up...mom and dad cant take care of you anymore (or atleast shouldn't) from this point on you are now responisble for your actions. Dont blame everyone else, you make your bed...now you sleep in it.

You fall in love-and more than likely, you do it more than once. ideally you learned after the first one (or couple) fail what you prefer, expect, and appreciate out of that significant other. Then you find him/her. You knwo immediately this is the person I am spending the rest of my life with. Do you think this is going to be an easy task. Yet again when you sign those marriage papers there is no disclaimer that says "Congrats you're married, this road to happiness is free of money problems, marital problems, concieving problems, in-law problems, parental problems, and finally parenting problem...just sit back relax and enjoy the ride" If your marriage certificate said this...than you are imagining it. If you by chance go through ANY of these...***SURPRISE*** you're not the ONLY one in the world dealing with it. At somepoint you need to realize your life isn't as bad as it COULD be!!! Are you alone? Do you have someone to go talk to when things are hard? Someone you can count on? Someone you trust? Is this the person that you married? If you said "no" to any of these...I'm sorry to tell you, you have made the wrong choice in your spouse. Yep I said it...I am that BOLD!!! But obviously with all the complaining that is going on no one else is telling you- therefore I will.

Now god forbid you didn't realize ANY of this before you conciously procreating, and now you have a little combination of the two of you running around. You love your child, but you're not happy. But lets do the "smart" thing and stay in an unhappy environment for my CHILD so that he can grow up to be just as unhappy as I am!! CUZ THATS YOUR SMARTEST IDEA YET!!! Along with the baby another disclaimer was shoved in the butt saying "This child will be free of any malfunctions. This baby will not cry all night, it will never be sick, it will sleep all night. In addition as it grows it will always listen to what it is told, never do drugs or alcohol and will be the answers to all of the problems you've had up until now. This baby is exactly what you hoped for in fixing you marital problem...good for you!!" Of course all of this disclaimer came true. I dont know I guess maybe in a way it did considering denial is the only constant in your life. Your baby is sick often, but instead of demanding answers you just keep putting them on more medicine and antibiotics to slowly kill an infection. But because of your denial 5-10 years from now your child will no longer respond to antibiotics. Maybe then your smart decisions will click!! For the life of me I am unsure as to why at least one parent isn't smart enough or doesn't care enough to demand answers so your child is no longer going through pain on a regular basis. But then again hygiene is a key role into keeping healthy-and I'm not sure that you took that class while in school.

with all the disclaimers you have a perfect life, and you have no need to complain as everything is great...you grew up healthy no problems, married the perfect perosn, and had a dream child, just like it promised right?

Finally if you keep staying in denial and just complaining I will tell you how your future will pan out. You will stay married, although unhappy. The two of you will not even act like a married couple. Seperate cars, seperate vacations, sometimes not even knowing where the other one is..but not worry about it. You are miserable and feel the need to tear other people down to make yourself feel better about your situation. Your sex life (if you have one) will only be once or twice a year unless you have found someone outside the marriage for that. Your child, although might have had many previous relationships, never settles down in the fear that every marriage is like yours and doesn't want to be unhappy forever, instead they would rather be alone...wow congrats you have indeed perfected "life"...you should probably write a book!!