Recent annoyances

So here's the deal. I completely and totally realize that I am not the best mother in the world, and there are things that other people may know better than I do, but lets be honest..Parenting styles aren't right and wrong (besides the obvious) it is more cause and effect, trial and error. So where is this coming from?? Let me explain

I have three children, you have one. Trial and error has taught me to do something MY way...don't try and make ME feel bad with your "holier than thou" attitude. DO NOT try and make it seem like what I am doing is bad to everyone else. If I go through somehting that by some chance you have...I will take your OPINION to heart-but when it comes to experience-I have the upper hand. If I ask opinion thats a whole other matter. My sister felt so bad telling me how to take care of diaper rash...she was soo worried that she was sounding "better than me" when in all honesty..NONE of my children had ever had it, hers had-in this situation she had the upper hand and I took advantage of her advice and it worked! Sticking to my sister..

The other day we went grocery shopping together-a woman (I was gonna say lady, but to me that sounds old and she wasnt) came up and commented on how cute my lil neice is and then commented on her ears being pierced and toe nails painted. She said "well I decided to wait until my daughter asked to have hers pierced" like it was the WRONG thing to do. Lets let this boil a bit so i can come up with the right way to explain exactly what I wanted to tell this woman short of saying..."shove it".


Okay it boiled....have you ever met a little girl that said "mommy I dont want my ears pierced...I'm so glad you gave me the choice?" Instead you ahve a bunch of 5 year olds out there wanting to get their ears pierced who are now going to remember that it hurt SOOO bad. Cuz as a child it hurts...and it will become a seared memory. Like all shocking things, traumatic events. Therefor you're either going to have a child scared of needles or a child who will never go for a second hole. So you dont care if she has a second hole. Okay lets ponder on this...what happens when you take her to get her ears pierced and come home with one. So yes some places do both at once, but what if they physically cant that day, they're a person short and your daughter is throwing a fit cuz you tell her you have to come back another day. The lady offers to do one at a time and your daughter begs for you to allow it. You do, they do the first she pulls a full out flip out and WILL not allow them to go near the second. Now your daughter is going to walk around with one...Go YOU!! That was a brilliant idea! Okay so maybe a little far fetched but not totally impossible.
Next I cannot tell you how many people have commented on the nail polish on our childrens toes and fingers. "Well I wouldn't want her to eat it"...seriously??? NEWS FLASH!! Your child is going to put MUCH worse things in her mouth than nail polish from her fingers or toes. Dont believe me. Here's a few that I know have gone in my childrens mouths-and if you think I'm a bad mother cuz my kids had the chance to put these in their mouths...do me a favor and stuff your mouth full of all of them...

Toothbrush (how is this gross you ask--It's not a full 6ft from the toilet...the toilet doesn't always get closed before it gets flushed..ie: toilet mist)
Penny (not bad??? Okay think of where that penny was...now think of how many people touched that penny before them..NOW think about what the people touched before touching the penny...EXACTLY)
Dog Food (This just grosses me out)
Their shoes (mmm just imagine where those have stepped foot in, think PUBLIC RESTROOM)
Their Hands, Your Hands, Their foot quite honestly the best thing they can do is suck on their toes after being in shoes all day rather than their hands...think about it..what did their feet touch other than a sock and sneaker? What did their hands touch. And I know you dont walk around putting hand sanitizer on their hands every time they touch something. If you do walk out of your house, get in your car and drive to the nearest psychiatric hospital cuz you my dear have a severe ocd problem.

So what else has annoyed me? mmm...The fact that some parents feel that a preK graduation is not a necessary thing, you dont care to go? So basically you're robbing your children of the last day of school and a VERY special day for them, and their friends?? Do you WANT them to grow up to be just like you? You are definitely well on your way. Add to this that this is a seperated household, you now just completely screwed up the other family's chance to make sure their daughter had this SUPER special day, and to reward her for the achievement. I know our situation is differnt, I love Kaelins father liek he was flesh and blood, but I came to love him, I didn't fall in love with him...I love him because he is Kaelins father-I love him because he is a great friend to both myself and my husband. And it doesn't stop there..he's a great friend to my sister and her family, to my parents, to my friends. Was there a time I hated him...absolutely..was there a time I wanted nothing more than to hurt him of course. I was 20, single, and pregnant. We broke up a week before I found out. I was pregnant over my 21st with only one friend since all other "friends" abandoned me when I needed them most. His life did not change..it hurt. While he was out drinking and meeting girls and having a good time I was at home cooking a child (whom I loved since day one-but in no way did that make things better) I didn't even want to give Kaelin his last name..and she wasnt going to have it-but I realized, at one point in time we cared about each other enough to make a child. He will be in my life forever, I can either make it miserable for the both of us, or look at it as a blessing. I wish others could do the same and stop just doing things out of spite, cuz you're not just hurting the mother...you're hurting the child.

Next...politics, religion. You all just need to shove it on the matter. Obama, you want him to pull a magic heal all out of his ass? Last I knew it takes about 7years to recover from filing bankruptcy. But yet you all expected him to fix our financial problem in 4? Hell he hasnt' even served a full term and he's not doing enough?? Really are presidents ommitted from being human...are they all powerful and can heal, repair fix any problem. Yes our unemployment is down...that is directly obamas fault for sure..totally. I voted for him...why??? Because for the FIRST time I saw a man- a man that knew what we were all like, not one that came from wealth. I saw a man that loved his wife unconditionally, cared about his family. When it comes down to it...that's all that matters in the world. Why is unemployment up..lets be honest-some got on it and realized it was easier than working, others are "too good" to take a fast food or super market job. Some money is better than none but if they took a pay cut they lose our country bailing them out, their real paycheck would be less than their fake.

Religion...lets just say I will touch on that another day, it is time for me to retire and relax with my family, my daughter who (I'll let you in on a secret...has hilite--go ahead gasp, i'll wait. But I'm sure if she was a child model or in pagents it'd be okay, but I did it cuz i can. Her father takes her hunting-thats life or death, this is not. I also put make up on her sometimes...THE HORROR!!) So back to waht I was saying..my daughter who had pierced ears at 1month and came home from the hospital with toenails painted, my oldest son who has put everything short of the kitchen sink in his mouth and is never without a bruise, my youngest son who isn't so little and my amazing husband who loves me despite the horrible mother that I am!!!