Family...

I always touch on our kids, or our friends, I even talk about our families. But I have never talked about just how important each and every person in your life is. People seem to forget that their family is their and should be their support system. Now yes at 15 or so everyone hates their mother, their father, their siblings-that is if their parents are doing a good job. The friends that I had that enjoyed their parents at that age I can look back to now and they have no relationship with them anymore. Why??? Because at 15 they were smoking pot with their parents, they were drinking without consequences. Where are they now? I can tell you of a couple I am sure of- in jail, strung out on drugs, not contact with their parents.

That's great, just where I wish I was!!! Where am I going with this? Well as much as I love Facebook I also tend to see people bad mouthing their family quite often. It could be talking about a spouse, or a parent, or a sibling. Expected at 13-17, but when you're the ages of 18+, no excuse. So what if your parents are to blame or your sister is talking behind your back....I can promise you aren't quite so innocent yourself. None of this is needed to blab about on FB!! You want a pity party...you want to feel special or wanted, you want people to notice you and try and make you feel better. When in reality 90% who have read your post think to themselves "Wow she's dumb". Seriously your familyl talking behind your back-YOU'RE NOT THE ONLY ONE. and you know what I am sure that you have had some not so nice things to say about your family also!! You vented on FB about what a b**** she was and turned out looking like the bigger one in the scenario cuz at least she didn't post what she said about you! Let me tell you a secret that has been drilled in my head since I was a child-family is all you got hunny! When your parents are gone, who will understand most how you're feeling, not your friends-but your siblings! Who remembers how scared of the dark you are, or your favorite colors growing up. Who can pick on you relentlessly on how much of a mess you used to make or the stupid mistakes you made, or the retarded boyfriends that you held so high? Your sibling...your sister, your brother, your mother, your father. How do you think your parents feel being stuck in the middle of such a High School drama with their adult children. It'd make me sick-you should be ashamed of yourself!!! Everyone deals with family problems-everyone has something about them that drives others nuts, you vent to your husband, boyfriend, wife, girlfriend....not on FB. So my sister is driving me insane-would I tell her? Maybe, or maybe just chalk it up to needing to vent, or wait til it blows over.
My sisters downfall??? She worrys too much---has since we were children. Does this drive me nuts? At times-but she's my sister. My sister can be a B****..but she's my sister and if I ever had to chose between a friend who was sweet as pie or my sister on a bad day-I WILL ALWAYS choose my sister. None of my friends will understand me like she does. When our mother is driving us nuts...we have each other to go to, when one of us is driving our mother nuts, she can go to the other and vent about it and we can go to each other and explain that they need to give mom a break or just let it slide cuz it's been a stressful week. No one knows me like my mom and my sister. I was 100% a daddy's girl but he's my dad, he's oblivious to women feelings. His best line when we went through a break up was "I'm the only man that will love you your whole life" it never failed to make me smile-but my mom and my sister were the ones to hug and just let you cry cuz they knew and still know no words are going to make you feel better, only a good cry (or a million) will help you through it. We have mommy problems, or marital problems, or pregnancy problems....we don't push each other to talk, we know when they're ready they will talk. When you vent remember who you are venting to, and take into account the day that you've had up until that point. Things you hear on a bad day are liable to bug you more than if you were having a good day. I know there are things about me that drive my family nuts-I'm the black sheep-I'm good with that. But you will never know the power of your relationship until you let things go and embrace them for their faults, not hate them for it. Understand that all women need to vent, we're caddy-that's how God made us against his better judgement...we dont always mean what we say! Remember all you have is family, your parents, your siblings, your husband, your children...they are what matter, not what other people think of them, but how much they've done for you, and how much they'd still do for you if you just dropped the HS attitudes and accepted each other for who you are...