Disapline..what??? Respect....who?

How is it that anymore we are no longer allowed to discipline our children. I'm sorry but the corner for time out only half the time. A slap on the hand is a no no, a smack on the butt...GASP!! I'm sorry but when did our country decide that it is in our best interest to no longer beat our children...err...I mean spank?? Okay okay I get yes to beat them is wrong, most parents would never hit hard enough to hurt their children...more just shock them. But now we're not even allowed to do that. I'm sorry but sometimes yelling, screaming, time out just doesn't phase them.

Have I spanked my daughter...absolutely. Hard, not at all...but because it is so few and far between it literally shocks her. The only time I ever have is when she went outdoors without anyone with her and anyone telling her it was okay. Things that are likely to cause harm to her, something to happen to her...that is when I want to instill the fear of god in her. Do I hurt her...nope, I just scare her. I'm sorry but we no longer are allowed to discipline period. Then we wonder why kids these days are so out of hand. No one DARES to discipline because of the consequences that might come because some adult that never had children saw them grab their childs arm when they were acting up in the store. I've seen these reactions. I've seen the child start kicking and screaming, I've watched the mother try to calm him down, then the mother grab him by the arm and walk out...leaving her grocery cart right there. She had every reason to do so...I would've too if it was my child. However I also saw the other people looking at her with disbelief that she held her child like that. I'm sorry but if you have any good parenting in you, you would not ALLOW your child to act like that. HELLO...if you're not a parent and you think I'm being cruel...go get pregnant..wait til that child is about 2-5 and they have a meltdown in the middle of the store...and THEN come back and read my blog...you will have a whole new appreciation for it!

However I do want to point out something incredibly important...if you feel like you are about to snap...it will not KILL your child to cry. WALK AWAY!! Go outside, the next room, whatever. Put them in their crib and walk away. I can promise you that crying will not kill them...think of it as exercise. However you can kill them...all it takes is a couple minutes of shaking and you could lose your child forever. WALK AWAY!! It's stressful being a parent...anyone that is any kind of a good parent knows that. You're not alone when you need a breather. We all do.

Next lets point out how kids now a days have absolutely no respect for their elders...this is part of the reason. I'm sorry but when my daughter brings home her boyfriend, he WILL address my husband and Mr. Forsyth, he will be expected to eat dinner with the family and he will be expected to sit and have a conversation. Above that...he will have the respect to look my husband and I in the eye when he is speaking to us. Same goes for my sons girlfriends. If you join any family function you will be expected to participate and acknowledge the family or you will not be welcome in our home. Shy is one thing...rude is another. Please, Thank you, How are you, Nice to meet you. Are these things hard to say...i don't think so but apparently kids these days do. I will not stand for it in our home. If you cannot be respectful I will not respect you, therefore if you end up humiliated because I will not be held responsible for how the rest of my family will treat you. I am so turned off by these kids who feel that it is OKAY to not respect their elders. No matter how much of a brat I was to my parents, or how bad I might have been (which honestly wasn't that bad, I believe people just thought worse)...I ALWAYS respected adults, made a point of carrying on a conversation..especially to parents where their children were in my life. Now I look at these kids and it's like it is okay for them to just isolate themselves and only talk when spoken to...IF THAT. News flash people...our children are our future. Dont you think that our present is messed up enough, shouldn't we being doing everything we can to raise our children right so that they can have a better more stable life than what we are all living in right now? Or is it too much of a burden on your life to raise your children with a little respect???