Thank you for not talking....

So recently I had read a friend was going through a rough time with their child not sleeping. She had said that he recently started crawling a couple days before. I probably read the info four or five times before I finally decided to give her "my experience". I tried my best to make it "my experience" and not "my advice" Why you ask. Because sometimes I HATE ADVICE!!!!

I know mean right? Okay lets clearify...Advice from your mother = wisdom (even though sometimes you might not want to admit it). Advice from your Mother-in-law = husband wisdom *sometimes this explains soo much about the man you married*. Grandmother Advice = 1. Old Wives Tales and things you probably shouldn't follow (ie: Whiskey on Gums) or 2. Complete nonsense.

Okay so WHO am I talking about. Lets start with your friends that don't have kids. HA...we all know these. Needless to say some can even say that it's also family members. These are the ones who know EXACTLY how to raise a child. "Absolutely MY child will never watch TV"..."You should be reading and pointing out the words so they will learn quicker" my FAVORITE..."why don't you put the diaper on closer and closer to the potty, ya know like they do in potty training dogs. She'll get it" REALLY...I would love to see YOU parent!! Or there are those people who already have kids who apparently think that you forgot how to handle kids. Or idk maybe forgot you have kids. These are often the people that I kind of dish it right back...I know you are saying "well look at your blog...arent you preaching to IDK yourself" here i will say no. This is because go back and read my disclaimer. These are opinions I am not telling you to read it, nor am I telling you to come to me for advice. If you use my ideas or agree..I'm am not responsible for your child in 20 years :o)!!!

Okay so now we know who I am talking about. Would you like to hear how we need to handle these people? Well why are you looking at me?? I wish I had the answer...some how some way. I am a nice person and I just smile and nod-but don't listen. But then there comes a day that you step too far. This is when I become rude. Usually that line is my daughter. For some reason when I became pregnant with my son...people forgot that I had been pregnant before. Why do I say this? Because I got "just wait til this happens" "you wont believe it when"..etc. SERIOUSLY Kaelin was two when I was pregnant with Gage. I'm pretty sure my parenting and pregnancy ideas are not only fresh but more experienced than you...considering you were pregnant for 9 mos and I was now going into my 12th month of experiencing pregnancy (9 mos Kaelin; 3mos Gage) I have you beat. My daughter is my line...and I might always be super protective of her because I never ever want her to feel like she doesn't count just because she wasn't hatched under a piece of paper. Now if I ask for your advice...have at it. Tell me I'm a horrible mom, tell me whatever you want-but since I asked for it-I deserved it. Does it mean I'll listen? Chances are 50/50...sorry being honest.

Now this pregnancy. It has just been over a year since I've had my son. All these people telling me things to get over being sick. Honestly-don't you think I've tried it. I was sick with both kids...this third one is a doozy. It's not like this was ANYTHING liek the two prior. I could handle that, throwing up twice three times a day. Not a problem. Puking at my most 12x's in one day, not even keeping water down. yeah. Complaining isn't my most favorite thing, but trust me when I say I could've curled into a corner and not come out for 6 weeks with as horrible as I felt. I cried atleast once a day. I'm so thankful that I'm feeling better!!!

If you ask advice I will give it, although you might now always like what i have to say. Dont complain to me about money and then ask for my advice. We're tight on money, but we're smart too. We don't "go out" we dont have "date night". The IMPORTANT things ALWAYS get paid ... these are Mortgage, car payment, car insurance, Medical bills and any credit cards (which there aren't many cuz I hate them). If we have left over money...great. If we don't- well we make due with what we have Do I feel like my kids are missing out. No, why? Because I am home with them, this is our sacrifice. Now if you chose to not pay your mortgage but go out drinking three times a month, out to eat every weekend and needlessly spend on things you don't NEED you just wanted. Well I have no pity for you and you deserve to be in foreclosure!! Obviously when you tell my husband and I that we need to get out more...we will laugh behind your back at your "advice".

Last but not least...marriage advice. This is almost as good as parenting advice. Really, you've been divorced once, twice, three times and you've swore men off and you're telling me I just need to learn that men aren't as great as they seem. FANTASTIC. Maybe if you weren't a bit psycho men wouldn't keep leaving you. All you do is bash your husband? Okay, I pick on my husband-he picks on me. We both laugh...you have nothing nice to say about each other-let alone to each other. But you want to give me an attitude when I am picking on my husband for being anal and tell me that I need to give him a break. This is coming from the person who also LOVES giving parenting advice but fails to notice how poorly she raised her own child. Next don't tell me I need a "girls only" night or my husband needs a "guys only" night. This is something we both agree on. We dont like going out without one another. All we do is miss each other and wish they could be there. We spend the whole night texting each other...and we're soo happy to be back together by the end of the night that it's just a reminder as to why we don't do it. We've been together 3 years and have gone out alone maybe 3 times if that. I enjoy every moment I spend with my husband-he might get on my nerves, I might get on his. We are never too good to appologize to one another, we will always say I love you before falling asleep. In the morning his kiss still wakes me up, at night I cant fall asleep without feeling his lips once again. His smile can still make me weak in the knees and his touch will make me melt. To watch him with our children shows me I've made the right choice, no matter how much he gets them riled up. I don't need your advice...I have parents who have been married close to 30years...they are my inspiration. They have been married close to 30 years and are still happy, they dont use names when they fight, they agreed on our upbringing. They did marriage right...you hardly talk to your husband, your child has more control over you than the government. YOU i will NEVER ask advice from, so please don't feel the need to offer it for free